![]() Scientific studies have shown how this trust builds up and can be manipulated over time. There are several tactics an abuser may use to build up this trust and ultimately manipulate and abuse us.Īs human beings we are conditioned to be social, to look to others for help/sustenance, so when someone enters our lives and offers us nourishment in the form of love, affection and attention, we form a strong emotional connection with that person. We do not expect to be abused - and, when it occurs, we find it hard to both spot and to speak up about it, as we have an emotional connection with the abuser - we often don’t want to cause them any pain. After all, why should you? It is not wrong or weak to be loving and believe in the love you receive. This is often because of the trust we give them - we enter a relationship with someone, giving them our trust and love and do not initially see danger. The opportunity is created in a subtle way, so subtle that we may not even notice it’s happening. The abuser will have created an opportunity or an environment for the abuse to have taken place. Abuse does not just happen and is not an uncontrollable reflex. We know that abuse will always have a degree of planning and premeditation. With the exception of automatic reflexes such as sneezing, almost all human behaviour is preceded by some degree of conscious thought. Understanding how abuse develops and learning about these patterns helps us in recognising and believing that what happened is not in fact our fault. A lot of us feel guilt after abuse, placing blame on ourselves that it has happened.
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